If I had the opportunity to speak to parents..well I have a few pointers:
The thing with the society that your children have been brought up in is that we're c o n s t a n t l y surrounded by noise and we're prime at multi-tasking and blocking out specific noise when necessary. Yelling until you're blue in the face may feel effective, but well, we're choosing not to hear it.
The worst thing in the entire world you can say to your kid is that you're disappointed in them. Speak those words and you've just won the argument. Guaranteed.
Better yet, cry. I'm being serious. It works.
This is sounding harsh..I'm not angry at my parental unit or anything, I'm just simply stating what would honestly work out.
Also, if you talk calmly about why you are so upset..we may roll our eyes. We can roll our eyes, but we can stillllll hear you. Keep talking.
Don't make your son or daughter doubt how much you love them. If we can't count on that, nothing in the world is worth anything anymore.
Don't be a hypocrite.
As long as we are your kids and you are our parents, we'll all make mistakes.
As long as you're human..you'll make mistakes while parenting us. Do the best you can. There are few things that your child may choose not to forgive you for. Don't take that for granted. Give your kids a little more credit. This life is a hard one and we're good people just trying to figure it out for ourselves. Trust that you've done all you can to teach your children good morals and values and that they will find it within themselves to honour those truths. Have just a little more faith. Letting go at the right time isn't an option...it is a mandatory process in life.
The End.
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